You have to be more understanding. I live in London and met him just outside the city and weve been together 5 years this summer but we are currently having ZERO sex he texts me NEVER and calls me NEVER! with me very quickly after meeting me. He loves the gym and usually chooses that over me, hanging out with his friends etc but then when we do actually spend time together hes all over me and appreciates me so much and makes me feel amazing. Well, a few weeks have gone by and the love languages and arguing and overall communication has been better. I said it would really mean the world to me if he would send me a good morning text like he used to. Now we seem so disconnected. Ive tried to initiate intimacy and have been rejected because hes tired. Thanks for letting me vent gals. Except for the kissing part and in my case i see him even less (once a month) but in my case he lost several family members since Ive known him so i know hes dealing with that. I have been noticing that he is lacking some qualities that I need in a mate. I did not even have to think about going this is what people do for each other. I saw him once more and he taught me my first trick. Hey so Ive been in a relationship for about 2 years now. We fight a lot almost every week because my needs are not met. I am experiencing the same situation too and it really hurts. Because I love him, i did. Show that you love them, laugh, argue, help eachother. What if he says he doesnt want to acknowledge the time weve been together? Ive communicated everything and yet nothing. And hes unshowered and playing video games! ? Like WTF is your goal, here, exactly? This might not apply to all guys. Then quarantine hit. Till then, you should be determined not to commit to anything or anyone. I finally had to let him go. Any advice would be helpful to me. I relate so much with this comment its exhausting. We were fine for the first 6 months, then with this virus we havent been able to see each other. It makes me feel like 1: he now feels a connection with this woman he does not with me and that is why he feels so contemptuous towards me all the time now 2: pissed off that he KNOWS it bothers me, is not able to understand why I feel that way and simply disregards my feelings maybe even doing it on purpose?? No matter how much you wish your boyfriend was making more of an effort in your relationship, you have to remember that theres nothing you can do to change him. But he never tells me how he feels when I ask. Thats was our first time seeing each other in person (granted, Id seen him randomly beforehand in elementary school years before that). There is a lot more to it that Im frustrated about, and recently Ive become I guess depressed about everything in general and find myself thinking about how it used to be and what I miss the most and to be honest all that ends up happening is me ending up crying, falling asleep and it starts all over again. Weve been together for 2 years or so. He then told me it was the appropriate setting to tell me I was super cute. LOL. As stated above, knowing what your boyfriend is going through (ex trauma, personal grief, work load) is important and all, but also knowing how you would act if you were in a similar situation gives you answers and peace. I would get so frustrated with him because I really was not asking for much, just a phone call to check on your girlfriend surely is not asking for much. Anyways, I eventually moved in with him and things were good. but i told him nah! Yet he continues to text me daily, send me daily updates on everything he is doing, etc. He texts me every morning and night and we often text during the day. We were friends for about 2 years before I gave him a shot and when we were still just friends he would try to spend as much time with me as possible and hangout all the time. He doesnt do laundry, dishes, cook or clean. Maybe you feel grateful when your boyfriend finally decides to stop by at 10 pm, without calling first. And when I would send him flirty or intimate texts in the beginning of this whole thing, he would either not respond at all or sound uncomfortable in his response. it was boring and dull. He avoided conversations about his feelings, and we struggled to communicate & resolve issues. But hes never done anything at my house even though he says he will help me out. Thank you for taking the time to type the words in your comment. I just dont know if Im asking for too much or if hes just making up excuses. Letting Go of Someone You Loveisnt about getting over it. Letting go doesnt mean forgetting, pretending you didnt lose an important relationship, or guarding your heart so you dont get hurt again. I had to call him! he felt i shifted too much of my attention to work and the kids and not enough to him. They had another baby but as the saying goes you shouldnt have a baby to fix things so they split up. After his birthday he left his sisters and moved in with his mom. My fiance and I have been together for a year.. when we first got together he was so happy and kind to me.. but then there was all this stuff from his job getting him stressed out ..and bills, and family, and Im not sure what else..his last job he had a manager that spoke so poorly towards him and the other employees plus the customers. He wont make an effort to see me. He doesnt have any plans in those days and still he can not make an effort to spend that day with me, meanwhile I have 2 birthday parties and was ready to ditch them to spend time with him. work game sleep. I may be overreacting sometimes, but I believe my feelings are valid. 7 Signs You Can Trust Your Boyfriend After He Cheated, 7 Ways to Convince Your Ex to Give You a Second Chance, When the Man You Love is Marrying Someone Else, When Your Ex Starts a New Relationship: 3 Ways Through the Pain, 7 Signs You Arent Ready for a Relationship, Emotionally Detaching From Someone You Love. While he was living with his mom he got a job and was so focused on that..he didnt talk to me as much anymore. So anyways I snuck out again and yeahme and him hung outit was a special moment for me. and guess what? Open your heart to Jesus; listen to His call on your life. First off I pulled back without warning. David & I had a wonderful relationship, but then I noticed a change in him. I too feel like Im not asking too much- but even if Im clear in communicating what I want and need, my boyfriend rarely makes the effort. For me personally, I feel like my boyfriend does not know how to go through a crisis together. My boyfriend and I have known each other since I was 18 years old. I said we work on it or we end it. He even had a heartbreaking confession that he has been going through the years. Im right there with you though, I feel the same way about my bf of 2 years. Also said he is feeling low and has issues with his father (this something he always tell me tbh)He hasnt called me yet tho he promised he would. He should be making an effort to see u, call u , and text you throughout the day. Ironic the 6th year anniversary I spoke of then is on Monday and we were supposed to be celebrating by going to the place we went on our first date tomorrow, instead, because they arent open on Mondays. I didnt get to ask him for his number or anything so I only had his name. Around this same time, I decided to download the dating app bumble to see where it would take me. Men go through depression, hurt and sorrow just like us women do. I am right there with you and share very similar feelings. Its selfish to me but maybe it really isnt. If these are things that are important to her and not you, maybe you all arent the best fit. How come? Or, ask them for more details. 7) He thinks youre not interested and has given up If the guy who has suddenly started ignoring you was super interested not long ago but has apparently stopped pursuing you he could have decided to cut his losses. BUT both have to put in the work and if its not happening the work then its not happening and we are settling. He dosnt wnt to sex i know that well. Within the past 2 years. Good luck! Im sorry. I dont want a father figure, i want a man that i love to show love to me. it makes me feel like hes okay with giving me the minimum because he knows i will accept it. He always makes his schedules according to his friends schedules and if I wanna spend any time with him I have to change my schedules. Best wishes. Also, and Im not materialistic by any means, hes offered to buy me lots of things or even just give me money to help with bills. When this happens occasionally, it's normal, but consider it a red flag if it's happening constantly. So accept that it will be hard, cry about it for a week or two and try to move on with your life and realize that you deserved so much better then that pos. However, I do know something that will help immensely. Your email address will not be published. Psychologically, the pressure was destroying me. But I clearly have seen enough examples of the ones who simply stops caring when they are sure that we will be theirs and we will always care about them no matter what. However I have had major trust issues since I was young and still find it hard to trust him in certain situations. Could you be the one who's not listening? Meaning if he doesnt step up when you pull back. That should be enough. he straight up ignored and didnt read them.) He makes comments like some of us work for a living which is one of his huge baggage in life- the fact that hes a greedy mother $#_&@ and chose to be a workaholic and have no life even in his 20s so he expects everyone else to do the same. Everything is done ON PURPOSE to stick a fork in his eye like youre not that important, sorry. I was in an abusive relationship before so its scary having to trust someone and their intentions. This is an old post but was wondering what you did? But we got OUR place, he expects me to clean, cook, everything. You see, now when you decide to leave him, its not because you dont love him, but its because you love yourself and respect yourself far more than you love him. You are worth it. Since then hes filed for bankruptcy and the interest he used to take in my poetry appears to have disappeared. Well today came and guess who backed out of the park?? We lived together in my apartment for about a year & a half. I forgot the bin was being collected and it was due to arrive in a few hours, he didnt take it out. Would you like to come along? is there a light at the end of the tunnel? We go no where, we do nothing. I tried talking to him and he said I was being to needy. My boyfriend is Lebanese and given the situation there (economic crisis, unemployment rate and poverty rate are getting higher), he began manifesting symptoms of an overly stressed man. Our honeymoon ended way sooner than for others. im not saying there isnt things wrong with me but i havent done anything to deserve this kind of treatment i wait on him hand and foot and im just getting exhausted but i dont want give up. There is a possibility we wont be together if he gets accepted into grad school because its in another state. He sense my seriousness and took me out on a date, told me he will make more time to spend with me once a week (Im busy too so once a week is good for me.) In a year and a half weve gone on maybe 2 dates and I had to beg for them. Please give me some advice pleaaaase. So that irritates me as I scramble to get everything I need to get done before he gets there so I can spend time with him instead of homework or dishes or laundry. I feel like I could spend my life with him if it were not for one issue that has always popped up. I have no family and feel really lonely. He told me he loved me within weeks of us meeting. Its been almost two years and weve been inseparable ever since but lately it seems like something has changed. Then, youll have the wisdom and guidance you need. Hi Looloo, My partner is the same. So what I want to know is do this guy and me still have a chance to fix things? Now that family is gone and I have to build a new support system from scratch. This is really helpful. You cant change how he acts toward youyou can only change your expectations. Im really worried because from October were doing it long distance and Im dreading that if Im not the one to go see him, were not gonna see each other for half a year. I am tired of him not making a plan and his sudden switch in personalities. He told me the other day if you dont like the way I am, then leave me. Stopped fantasies and games and generally sexual desire towards me about 2-3 years ago now, losing track. funny and stupid for I was foolish to be trapped with his flowering words. He tells me that he loves me very much and I know he does. and I can say that I would of made more of an effort. Lives like a pig in his own house. I HAVE COMPLAINED ABOUT IT IN THE PAST, AND HE JUST SAYS THIS IS WHAT IT IS. I talk about this with him. He is playing you and gas lightning you! Its exhausting when you are the one doing the heavy lifting. 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